6 Coaching Models You Need In Addition to NLP
“The days at the bootcamp was unforgettable! Very strong days with optimal learning both in process and content. I feel so privileged to have both you and Michael as trainers. You both are so strong in competency and in loving personalities. I feel lucky that I was able to participate.
I do have a number of coaching certificates by now, but actually none of them really matters. I love NLP, but my coaching sessions until now have been chaotic (my review), and my self confidence has been too weak to build a business for real. The Meta-Coach education has made a big difference. This is the framework of quality that I need to be sure that I am a great coach, and not just another wannabe”
Janicke Getz, who went through the Coaching Mastery training with Michael Hall and I, sent me this email message shortly after the training. She is not the first person to share with me that having a certificate in NLP was not enough for her coaching sessions. I felt the same way after I took my NLP Master Practitioner back in 2003. There was something more. I felt I was missing structure in my coaching sessions and didn’t feel confident enough to build my business.
I discovered that the NLP model was only the start of mastering the art and science of coaching. There was more to it! There were actually 6 more models that all integrate into a solid understanding of the profession of coaching. And I’d like to share these with you, and why they’re there.
The Meta-States Model – For Unconscious Communication
The Meta-States model allows your client to step back from his/her experiences and gain a higher perspective or awareness. In a way you’ve already learnt how to do this in NLP with the observer position. If you step back and observe, you’re essentially in a meta-state. So what is a meta-state?
We live in states and move from one state to another thoughout the day. In short, a state is the sum of our thoughts, feelings and physical experience at a specific moment in time. When we relate our thoughts and feelings to something outside of us, we call that a primary state. But it doesn’t stop there, because we have thoughts-and-feelings about our thoughts-and-feelings. As such, we can feel angry about our anger. Alternatively, we can feel calm about our anger. Imagine what a difference the two make!
Realizing this opens us (and our clients) up for endless possibilities. First, there’s the fact that we can always step back from our current state and bring a meta-state to it. Second, as we in-form ourselves with these different states we are able to behave and speak differently. As an example, when we are learning something new, we can step into adventurous joy and curious openness about our learning. Or we can bring appreciative curiosity and self-esteem to our primary state of receiving criticism (rather than perhaps thoughts and feelings of defensiveness and attack?)
The Axes of Change Model – For Change and Learning
Coaching is all about change. Our clients are in a place they don’t want to be, and they want to be somewhere else. How can we make this change last? Most of the change models out there are based on therapeutic models, which really don’t fit for the field of coaching.
Do you understand the structure of transformation? The different thinking styles that need to be activated within your client to create and solidify change?
The Axes of Change model offers an answer to that, and allows you to dance through these steps with your client. It’s an organic process rather than a linear, step-by-step one, and you will still be following the energy of your client.
Self Actualization Quadrants – For Self Actualization
In coaching the idea is to unleash your client’s potential. It’s not about fixing or healing, it’s about facilitating the very best. Coaching is about self actualizing.
What is the psychology of self actualization? And how do you apply this in your coaching sessions? Do you know where your client is in their journey to self actualization. Can you pin-point what’s missing?
These are critical questions to be able to answer when you are a coach. The Self Actualization quadrants helps you find the answers.
The Matrix Model – For Systems Thinking
The human experience is not linear. It’s systemic. An experience is made up of beliefs, beliefs-about-beliefs, internal representations, triggers, behavior, etc. One of the main principles of coaching is that you help your client find the leverage point for change. The difference that makes the difference. You can change 1 little thing and that re-organizes the entire system. You might also change 1 little thing and nothing significant changes at all.
The Matrix model helps you enter your clients belief system (layer upon layer of frames and meanings) so that you can understand their inner world. As you do this, you will be able to collaborate with your client to find the highest frame. The one that drives all of the others and is, therefore, the leverage point. Change that, and the rest will re-organize as well.
The Benchmarking Model – For Implementation
How do you help your client measure their success? Do you know what key performance indicators to use to monitor progress?
It’s easy to measure quantity such as size, shape, weigh, amount, etc. But how about quality? How do you measure what is intangible. This is critically important, but not as easy. Most coaching goals will be intangible.
The Facilitation Model — For Facilitation
Coaching is the art of process facilitation and mobilization of inner and out resources to an agreed upon outcome. As a helping profession, coaching is different from therapy, training, mentoring and consulting. Each of these have a different skill. For coaching that is facilitating.
Do you know how to facilitate change? What skills are important in facilitating?
In your NLP trainings you’ve learnt how to build rapport, match your client’s gestures, voice volume and tempo, physiology. That’s an important start of facilitating, but there’s more to it. Far more.
In the Meta-Coach training we have identified 7 core facilitation skills to use in our coaching sessions.